Well, the time has finally come. We are officially approved adoptive parents!!! We had our final home study interview on Thursday as well as a home safety inspection…..AND Jackson had an interview, of sorts, and passed! 🙂 He also did not fail to mention to our caseworker that he wants a little BROTHER named Jack. Below is a picture following Thursday’s meeting with our caseworker Rachel.
We are so excited to be done with what may seem like the most grueling part of the process, and yet the hard part actually begins now. We wait, and wait, and wait, and wait. There’s no telling how long we will wait for. Only God knows that. We are just praying for peace and patience in this part of the process. If it is a long waiting process, we are sure that God has something to teach us in that time. If it is a fast waiting time, well then I’m sure God will be teaching us lessons along the way.
Some couples have waited less than two weeks to be matched with a birth mom while others have waited for a year or more….just to give you all an idea. This is basically how it works: A birth mom who has made an adoption plan will look at eligible adoptive family profile books. (BTW, ours is done and at each of the 6 agency locations across the state) She will narrow down her pile of books until she is left with one family. That family is notified and the caseworker will set up a meeting between the adoptive parents and birth mom. After that meeting, if everyone is in agreement, a match is made. Usually this happens in the third trimester of pregnancy so we would only have about 6-8 weeks to prepare for our baby. There are some instances, 2 in the last week in fact, where a birth mom is in the hospital getting ready to give birth and decides she wants an adoption plan. In those cases, families literally had hours to get out of the house and drive to the hospital where their baby was waiting for them. I find myself wondering what I would prefer and trying to put myself in either of those instances. Both are mind boggling to me. What’s even crazier is that I will eventually walk into a hospital with Mark, with no physical pain of pregnancy and labor, and walk out with OUR baby. Having gone through child birth twice now, I’m having a difficult time wrapping my mind around that concept. I told Mark that I may experience more of what he has experienced when I was in labor with Jackson and Halle. That’s the best way I can explain it, I guess. Anyway, no matter how or when it happens, our child will have the most amazing birth story, just like Jackson and Halle. Different, but amazing.
So, we’ll just be here waiting and praying for the health and safety of our sweet baby and his or her birth mom. Another thing I feel compelled to mention before wrapping this all up is just how blessed we have been through all of this. Our family and friends have shown us a level of support that we never expected nor dreamed of. We are reminded daily of God’s sovereignty and will for our lives through the blessing of other people. Thank you doesn’t even begin to express our gratitude in your support of our call to adopt.
Trust in the LORD with all your heart,
And do not lean on your own understanding.
In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will
make your paths straight.
PS- Mark thinks I should mention that we’re in the market for a mini-van. 🙂 And then we’re gonna get a bumper sticker that says “We used to be cool”. At least we can make fun of ourselves, right?!?!?!?